Can't I Just Ignore My Weaknesses?

I get worried and moody easily and whenever I'm in this state, no one is pleased cause I'll either turn their request down or snub them. This is a weakness I've been battling with for years of which I'm now confused of whether to keep trying to deal with it or just let it be and keep pleading with loved ones to endure.

LOOK UP

"Luke 9:16
        And taking the five loaves and the two fish, he looked up to heaven and said a blessing over them. Then he broke the loaves and gave them to the disciples to set before the crowd."
    In our daily walk in this world, we encounter challenges of life that test our faith but in all situations we are to look up to God. Jesus looked up when he wanted to multiply the meal. What exactly was he doing? He was simply shifting focus from the people to the one who has the answer knowing that the answer was not in the situation.
     At times, our situation pulls us so down that we don't realize there is someone up there. We are so desperate to do something about a situation that could only be resolved by God.
     Last week, I so desired and searched for a job because I was tired of the token I was getting from my parents. That idea is not bad but what if instead of searching, I lift up my head, my heart and my voice to God for wisdom on what to do or I look up to him for abundance in the family.

    The blessing of God is what elevates you from the level of wretchedness. It is what makes you contented with the little amount you receive at your various places of work because you know that it will be multiplied to bless you and people around you. God's grace is never a function of our work so there is no amount you get from work that will be enough without His blessing.
   Silver and Gold are only products of the blessing not the blessing itself. They are no reasons to be distracted from God. The blessing of God is what supplies all riches. Our focus must remain God. Our real bank account lies with him.

   Shift your focus from your works and look unto Christ for his blessings. 

CONFESSION
   I am blessed! The blessed call me blessed. I greatly increase, expand and multiply. I do not set my affections on the things beneath,  I look up to Christ the seed. He is my Power to increase. When men are limited by the natural, I press on with the supernatural. I AM BLESSED!

   

    You are probably wondering what I mean by 'no'. Well, 'no' is that word   (an adverb) used to give a negative answer to a request, an offer or question.Now that you know what I mean by 'no', you might also be wondering why someone should sit and write an article on it since it is just a commonly used word. Well, just read on and you will unlock the mystery behind the article.

    Today, I came back from school and was making a meal; two cups of rice precisely. Normally, I would have prepared just one or one and half to take me for two meals but since I was expecting a visitor, I decided to make it two. I don't have a kitchen in my room and don't have a fan yet, I prefer to cook in front of my room. Like about 2minutes after I put the rice in the pot on the gas cooker, a neighbour came and stated that he also rushed down from school hungry and he was going to eat part of what I was cooking and I could not give him a negative answer but deep down I kept on thinking of how I was going to make four meals out of barely two cups of rice.
    That aside, I had just two pieces of fish in my stew and the second question came, "how am I going to  feed three people with two pieces of fish?". The food was ready and I served my neighbour with one of the fish pieces and ate mine without fish keeping the remaining one for my guest. Having ate the food, I laid in my bed for some rest and the thought about how to say no when I am not capable of a request came up. 
    I must confess to you friends that I don't know how to say 'no' and I don't like the fact so I have to think about what to do and here is what I have:

1. Think(analyze) about every offer, request,  or question carefully before giving a response.  

2. Consider you capacity . This can really require you to be factual with yourself. Think about what you are capable of without external forces. What you are capable of doing in your natural self.

3. Ok now, you've done those two above and you still feel like a 'no' is not the right answer, think of adding external forces. As a christian, I will add faith. By adding faith, I am able to believe that something positive will come out of every situation.

4. Say no taking no offence and not offending.

See what Mayo Clinic has to say;

When to say no:
* Focus on what matters most
* Weigh the yes-to-stress ratio
* Take guilt out of the equation
* Sleep on it
How to say no:
* Say no
* Be brief
* Be honest
* Be respectful
* Be ready to repeat.
Read more http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-relief/art-20044494?pg=2

WHO AM I?

Who you really are is a very crucial matter about life.  You need to be able to define yourself since this is the only way you can bring out the best in this self. 
A double tragedy in life is; to die without knowing who you really are and to live denying who you really are.
My article today is centred on self image and self esteem which is One of the biggest issues in the life of all of us.
YOU ARE MORE THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE
Self image is how you perceive yourself. It is formed by a number of self impressions that come up over time. This self image can be positive, giving a person confidence in their thought and action or negative, giving them doubts of their abilities and ideas.
Surprisingly and oftentimes,  your outward appearance can be a facade but then  our self image can determine our approach toward life. 
If  you have a positive self image, you approach life positively.  However, it is important that your self image be not only positive but realistic.  Having an unrealistic self image can be a drawback whether the self image be positive or negative.
A negative self image can cause discouragement, failure and a negative thought can also encourage change, hard work, growth and success. Sometimes, having to positive self image can encourage complacency,  underachievement and arrogance.
Finding balance between feeling positive about oneself and having realistic goals is important.
Building self esteem is an inside job. Other people, circumstances, performance, success or failure will only allow a good self esteem to elude us.
So,  take time to develop a realistic self image and build your self esteem. These are the things that make you up.

THE FEAR OF GOD; THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM

Have you ever pondered on how wise you are? have you ever felt you are not wise enough? ok.
Prov 15: 33 (KJV) "The fear of God is the instruction of wisdom."

As I sat in one of my school's lecture theaters thinking of how to get over a problem, that bible verse rang in my ear and my thought moved away from the problem to the bible verse. I shrugged from the thought of it for a while cause I couldn't figure out how it was going to help me solve the problem I had but then, it rang again more clearly and I got it.

If you fear God or maybe I should be more practical; If you fear your dad and you do not like to get on his nerves, what do you do? Well for me, I will do away with everything that can get me close to his nerves not to even talk of getting on it. most times, it would require me to  think deeply to get an answer and in the course of doing that, I get answers to other problems. When I am out of that mood or right in that mood, I try to apply this idea I just got to a problem in  reality and usually, all I see in myself after this solution works out is a wise woman and seriously, that is simply the way it is with God.

Whenever you are being cautious of your ways because of God, you open your heart for deeper revelations of him and the world that gets you feeling fly like a super wise man.

I believe wisdom is not your ability to stand by a big mountain, pushing it with yiour little effort in order to move it away but your ability to get an axe and shove little parts of it away until it is finally gone. You realize that in this way, you are able to move the mountain and at the same time maximise the little stones you turned it to for something more useful.

Fearing God takes you to a realm of deep thinking that makes everyone see you as a wise person whereas you are just a little deep thinker.

My letter to the ladies cont.

 I am very sorry for posting very late but I promise things won’t go this bad anymore, I am very very sorry. OK, let’s go to business;

The remaining four letters of BEAUTIFUL is what we want to deal with and that’s letters I, F, U and L.

Incredible, Intelligent

Fruitful

Ultimate and 

            

Love

That’s it! You are incredible, fruitful, ultimate creature and you are love, a love being, loving… just name whatever has got to do with love.

You are INCREDIBLE, INTELLIGENT or let me combine the two by saying you are INCREDIBLY INTELLIGENT!   That’s sounds awesome right? Yea, that’s what God created. He created an incredible creature, an intelligent one whose intelligence is so incredible that it can’t just be compared with that of other creatures. He made you with such magnificence that no other thing can match with.  Because of your incredibility and intelligence, he made you ruler over all things.   I feel the need to take us to the beginning a little. You see, when god was done with creation, He told Adam to name every living creature and whatever he called them is what they are. That is to show how much you’ve got. OK, let’s look at examples outside the bible. The man who was honored for nomenclature of plants is Carl Von Linnaeus, this guy made use of this same intelligence to further the work which Adam did. He classified plants into groups of different kinds. You can imagine someone grouping almost all this plants into groups. That was quite a big task but he did it and you are expected to operate like that.

You are FRUITFUL! You are expected to yield fruits in all areas of your life not leaving any stone unturned. Stagnancy is not what you were made for, you should yield fruits because you are living1! You don’t have to be pregnant with a baby boy or girl before you yield fruits, you should yield fruits in your career, your attitude should yield fruits.

You are the ULTIMATE CREATURE! The maker took his time to make you, He wasn’t in a rush. He created you last because He knows how special you are. You are precious in His sight. He made you just like Himself, gave you what he’s got and made you chief over all He made before you. He ensured that everything was settled before creating you because He knows you are going to take over duties from Him.

And lastly, you are LOVE! You are LOVE! You are LOVE! God is LOVE! Everything about you should be love. Think love, act love, eat love, drink love and be love! Understand what love is, it is not about you giving out what you’ve got but about inhabiting the love nature in you. Begin to see things in the love light, love yourself enough to acknowledge all that you’ve read so far, love others and ultimately, LOVE GOD!

Merry Christmas and happy New Year in advance!

MY LETTER TO THE LADIES

Hello dear! You haven’t made any mistake opening this page. Your spirit actually wants you to have an idea of what you look like and that’s why you are here. You probably have been thinking what do I even look like? Well, you are in the right place to have your answer.

This is a letter to THE BEAUTIFUL YOU and I will be starting this by defining the acronym, BEAUTIFUL.

B-est creature

E-legant

A-dorable

U-nique

T-houghtful

I-ncredible

F-ruitful

U-ltimate treat

L-oving

You are the BEST creature in the whole of this universe! Nothing can compare to you. No no no, not even one because your creator took time to create you. You aren’t a product of mistake!! I don’t want to know if your parents actually have once told you that you were conceived by their mistake of not using a contraceptive or you’ve probably being rejected in your community that you are beginning to feel like you are worthless and without purpose. Well, right now I want you to change that mindset and see yourself as the BEST!

You are so ELEGANT that I don’t even expect to see an atom of inferiority whatsoever in you.

You are ADORABLE! O M G! What I’m I saying? You are a god on your own, everything you’ve got ought to worship you and not you being a slave to them; talk about money, cars, houses, etc. you should be the master of them all.

You are UNIQUE! Okay let’s do this. Take a look at the person your eyes can spot from head to toe and check if you are the same. Aren’t you fatter/slimmer, taller/shorter than the person? Don’t you possess a bigger eyeball? Common… you are UNIQUE dear.

You are THOUGHTFUL! Gbam! See this… you actually did some kind of thinking before you clicked on this page, huh? So why on earth should someone from nowhere just tell you that you are thoughtless? You aren’t dear. You have the mind of God and so you are thoughtful.

We have seen a bit of the first three letters of our word; BEAUTIFUL and as such my next post is going to complete it. After that we are going to be picking those letters each day and examine their impact in our daily activities.

I just thought I should drop this piece before I go for my exams, the second part of my letter will be released after my exams.

Thanks for reading dear. I love you…. Muah! 

GRACE FOR PERFECTON

GRACE FOR PERFECTION We should study the word and live the life! It’s not about preaching but about demonstrating Christ, enough of the pretense and deceit in the body of Christ. So many of us go to church but yet are nothing but just common participants in listening to the sermon, some other listen and act the word in the church but are some other sort of being once they are out of the church. Whatever category you fall in all I want you to know today is God wants you to be a better man, a perfect man, a man who is Christ-like and not just a church goer, not just someone who acts the word in the church even when his personal, family life is nothing to write home about. God is saying enough of those kind of life. Romans 11: 6 “and if by grace, then is it no more of works; otherwise grace is no more grace. But if it be of works, then is it no more grace; otherwise work is no more work” this verse is my message to us today. Whatever you are right now, I want you to know that its only grace that can make the better person you want to be. When grace is sufficient, everything goes well. The grace of God is what makes a Christian thirst for perfection, it will make the person to be at the right place at the right time so as to get all the perfection treats he need. For some times now, I have been thirsting for perfection in Christ and you know what? There has been hardly a day when I don’t walk in the direction. Often, it’s not like I do these things at my own decision but the grace makes the Holy Spirit to minister to me at that particular time such that it becomes a strong will and I just have to do it. That is how much the grace can fix things for you when all you have to do is thirst, thirst and thirst and obey his leadings, he will guide you to all truth. The spirit understands your imperfection right now and is ready to make you perfect as long as you want to be. Don’t be surprised if you start to Thirst and you find yourself at some kind of Holy Ghost congress. Well that’s probably where you need to be that moment. He wants to cleanse you and make you that desired perfect man. God craves for your perfection.