How To Stay Commited To What I Do

I stopped doing personal lifestyle blogging because of a few reasons:
1. It exposes strengths and flaws. More emphasis on flaws because that is what we people of the earth know how to spot and dwell on.

2. Consequently from point 1, it brings criticisms. Lifestyle writing raises discussion and of course criticisms. Criticisms can hurt a whole lot. I've had much gulp of it but I think my bullet proof shield has added more layers to suffice for the journey.

3. Commitment.
Because I've not wanted to share the flaws, commitment to lifestyle writing has been a whole lot of work.

When You Meet The One You Love

Dear Dre,

   How are you doing? It's been couple of days and I miss you already. I know you do too. Sorry about leaving you alone in school.
   Let's put the greetings aside, I've come with my relationship grunts as usual. This time is actually not about me but about her. Snap out of that homo thought in your mind; I mean her: the lady you'd end up in a relationship with. That girl you'd crush on harder than you crushed on me. I just hope she's like me, a better version of me and not a wild version of 'woman'.
     When you meet her, be sweet. Be the sweetest thing you can be irrespective of where you met because places don't matter in the long run. They are just for the story and amusement. You know I always wished I met the love of my life in church right? Yea. The story changed when I realized meeting in church is nothing if the guy is not as sweet as you wish him to be.
    Now, let me tell you how to be sweet. Give her all the attention and treat her like she's the only sperm that will give you that special child you want. Take her out to everywhere especially not forgetting to take her on a date even when she told you she loves it private, indoor. Its on a date that she gets to dress to look her best, preeminently because of you. She'd forever cherish it. You should also dress classy for her. I know you like it simple and casual but you don't want a rich guy from around the street to come ask your girl out in front of you.
    When she's all dressed, appreciate her. Be the first to tell her she looks beautiful, stunning, amazing. See, forget those talks we say in secondary school days that we don't need a man to tell us we're beautiful. We might not need it but we care for it. Our love antenna provides neat and colorful service when we are appreciated.
    Don't stop at appreciating her looks, appreciate the little things she does. You went visiting and she cooks, appreciate it. It's not your money she used and even if it is, it's not your energy or recipe. While you're being appreciative, daze her with gifts.
   I've got some other things to attend to so, I will drop my pen for another day. But, before I do, I know you don't have issues with sweet talking but I'd like to reinforce that you call her sweet names. Nne, maami, sweetheart, sugarplum, etc. And tell her you love her often. As commonly used as those words are, everyone loves to hear them resoundingly. In short, sweep her off her feet.
   There's more to do after but, know that the foremost way to keep a woman standing with you is to sweep her off her feet.


                          Yours weirdly,
                                 Dami.

The Beauty Behind The Madness

"The Beauty Behind The Madness"

I saw this on a friend's whatsapp status and I pondered on what could be his own madness. Possibly the hairstyle he cuts, often shaping his head in an oblong shape while the hair is left to grow as high as possible thus making it look like a cock's comb. And yea there's a song titled "beauty behind the madness".

One truth is; everyone has their own madness which only them and possibly a few folks see the beauty. It could be;

Define Your Relationships

Some months ago, I made a declaration of relationship with a friend and oh yea! There was visible growth in the relationship. We both knew our place in each other's heart and taking our seat in this place was so easy. In contrast to this, I recently met a good friend of mine who although without a defined relationship with, I missed while he was away.

Now that he's back, our crazy cycle is on it's spin again; over excitement for few days, a feeling of indifference catalyzed by ignorance of one's true stand in a relationship for the next couple of days, some weeks withdrawal from each other and eventually reconciliation. 

Comparing these two relationships and now being aware of how much definition and declaration of position goes in a relationship, I see the necessity for this to be done in every relationship. It helps control the crazy cycle; it helps both parties know that irrespective of what's going on in  the relationship, they can fight for their position and make things work.

The moment Jesus was baptized, there was a declaration of sonship, God said, "this is my beloved son, in whom I am well pleased". Likewise, as Christians, we were declared children of God at the point of salvation.

      "Romans 8:14  For all who are led by God’s Spirit are God’s children. Vs. 16  The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children."

Therefore, it's very important that you define your relationship. Eighty percent of broken relationships happened basically because there was no initial clear definition. You see someone as your best friend but she sees you as just a friend who she understands and thus is able to help when needy times arise. Don't put someone as the overall of your life when they just want company.

It might sound awkward to do but trust me, you don't want to not do it cause you don't want to be zoned unaware!

My Farm Diary: Week Three

Ring weeding of water melon

The third out of Eight scheduled weeks of farm for this semester is gone within the twinkle of an eye and seriously, I've been so favoured and I've learnt a lot. What happened in the third week?

My group was posted to the agro forestry and farm management unit. On Monday, we participated in the marketing of maize to market retailers and on the following days, we worked at the Agroforestry unit. On Tuesday and Wednesday, we were made to work on the watermelon farm where we did ring weeding I.e weeding about 2m round a plant. This is done when systemic herbicides are to be used for a farm with young plants. You weed a circle round the plant so that during the course of spraying, the sprayer doesn't have to go so close to the plant such that the herbicide might have contact with the plant and thus affect it.

On Tuesday, while others were weeding, Blessing(a group member) and I were scheduled to apply poultry manure on vegetables; Amaranthus and Cochorus olitorus locally known as ewedu. On Wednesday, we worked with the weeding team, on Thursday, we were allocated personal plots like the first week but this time around, we planted maize and joyfully, I can proudly say the maize I planted have emerged! And I know God will keep them till harvesting and I'm going to harvest a lot!

We planted using 3-4seeds per hole with a spacing of 75cm by 50cm which was the recommendation by our supervisors.

On Friday, we went back to our unit where we also planted maize but this time with the spacing of 75cm by 25cm and we applied NPK 15:15:15 fertilizer. Just when we finished and we were waiting for a lecture, the lecturer came only to inform us that she's not teaching us but we're having a demonstration on our tomatoes plot. At this juncture, we all looked at her shocked and jaw dropping.

See ya next week for a summary of this week's farm experience!  Love ya!