MY DREAM

What if my dream is not be a great writer? What if my dream is not to be a great singer? 
What if i don't want to become a lecturer, I guess I'd be a business Jack. 
What if i don't want to get married to a loving man? 
What if i don't want to be a great mum? 
What if my dream is not my dream? 
Because my dream is to be a great friend, I will do my best to satisfy my friend and I will feel broken at every friend I lose; I feel i've not done enough. 
Because my dream is to be a great writer, I'll strive for my books to be read by millions and top New York Times and if it doesn't, I will die unfulfilled. 
My dream is to be a great singer, lecturer, mum, marry, be a business owner, I will do all I can to make my dream true because it is what I want. 
What if i have a dream is not my dream? 
What if my dream is true?

What if my dream is alive?

What if my dream is the Gospel?
The GOSPEL is someone's dream. The Gospel is Jesus' dream.
The Gospel is Jesus.
My dream is Jesus' dream and my dream is Jesus.
The Gospel will propel other dreams to come true.
I will make every other things possible because they make the gospel.
I will write great articles about the Gospel. I will sing beautifully about the Gospel. I will teach the Gospel. I will impact the Gospel in my kids. I will marry nothing less than the Gospel because that is my dream. I will strive to make it work and Jesus who is the Gospel is always there to make it work so I don't have to be heart broken or depressed. He will give me smile even at tough times and I will be all about him. I do not have to worry or hurry; the Gospel is already true.

I choose the Gospel, I choose Christ, I let go of other dreams. My desire is the Gospel.
#GOSPEL

LOVE THOUGHT

    Right here in the front seat of a small car I sit thinking about me. With my head rested, and raised a bit just as much to be able to see the sky,  eyes shut out scanning through my mind, searching for answers to questions like: How is life going to be in the next five years? What am I going to be doing? Will there be someone to call 'love'? 
     The question of employment has not really been a burden to me. That area of my life seems to have always been settled from onset, I could be bothered a times about how many lives would be impacted though but the area of love, my relationship with people around me has been cumbersome. At some times, it seems right but other times, it doesn't. It has become a big case before God and I even when I know he has promised me a great future, I still Wonder how that's going to be with the pieces of shattered me presently.
     Love comes and goes. I doubt if I still know what it is or maybe I've not even experienced it. I can hear a voice countering that, asking if I know what God's love feels like and thus making me want to compare God's love with other feelings I've had but most often it just hasn't been the same only but with few friends.
   The journey to Ibadan was a safe and peaceful one except for the petrol tanker that fell across d road and the Fire service men, FRSC and some other people were trying to pull away. I got home not to meet my aunty so I called her that I was home. While waiting for her to return from wherever she is, I sat at the entrance, brought out my phone to continue to think out on my blog.
  Just right there, I got this feeling that it is  going to make sense after all, as long as I can patiently wait while it makes faith. That love is going to come around and it is going to be great because its going to be with the right person and at the right time.

That was a little sketch though. Hope you got a drop of inspiration.

FINE

How are you?
Did you just reply with 'Fine'?
Seriously, I don' t think I can get enough of that word because the word is so often used and weighs so much. When someone gives you that word as a response, its strength always tell so much of its content and from experiences, I've gathered that the strength of this word can range from Very sharp to sharp, normal, and lastly solemn.
What does the strength of this word tell? It tells something about the speaker and here is my opinion:

Very sharp: This is often used in a conversation between disagreeing parties. A typical illustration is when a couple engaging in an argument and one of them is tired of driving one point around for the other person to understand, you get a very sharp FINE or GOOD! This word hits the other person to an instant mute state.

Sharp: This is often used when concord is about to be reached in a conversation. See the conversation below,
Girl: Let's take rice for lunch
Boy: Hmmmm, let's take rice and beans
Girl: Nooooo
Boy: Yesssss
Girl: But we ate beans yesterday, took bread and egg this morning and you still want us to take rice and beans for dinner. I don't even understand why on earth guys love beans...
(Boy interrupts) Okay... FINE! Let's go for rice.
The very sharp and sharp type are sometimes used in reply when one is in a rush. In this case, it doesn't tell much of the speaker.

Normal: This is used in absolute acceptance of an idea, in replies to close pals/loved ones. It is most often used when a person is in a happy, cool or peaceful state. It sometimes come with a smile or an emphasis. It tells that the person feels good.

Dull: This is usually below normal and you can tell that this person is not in such a great mood. There is probably something wrong somewhere. Atimes, you get this dull response when a person is just waking up from sleep or when they are tired.

Solemn: This is always basic. You can barely hear what this speaker is saying. Sometimes, he/she barely completes the word such that you need to move closer or ask from a distance if all is well cause the person's contempt is really weak.

The very sharp and solemn are extremes of acidity and alkalinity respectively. The sharp is acidic, dull; basic and normal; neutral.

Hope you enjoyed reading. Was just playing around though.

LOOK UP

"Luke 9:16
        And taking the five loaves and the two fish, he looked up to heaven and said a blessing over them. Then he broke the loaves and gave them to the disciples to set before the crowd."
    In our daily walk in this world, we encounter challenges of life that test our faith but in all situations we are to look up to God. Jesus looked up when he wanted to multiply the meal. What exactly was he doing? He was simply shifting focus from the people to the one who has the answer knowing that the answer was not in the situation.
     At times, our situation pulls us so down that we don't realize there is someone up there. We are so desperate to do something about a situation that could only be resolved by God.
     Last week, I so desired and searched for a job because I was tired of the token I was getting from my parents. That idea is not bad but what if instead of searching, I lift up my head, my heart and my voice to God for wisdom on what to do or I look up to him for abundance in the family.

    The blessing of God is what elevates you from the level of wretchedness. It is what makes you contented with the little amount you receive at your various places of work because you know that it will be multiplied to bless you and people around you. God's grace is never a function of our work so there is no amount you get from work that will be enough without His blessing.
   Silver and Gold are only products of the blessing not the blessing itself. They are no reasons to be distracted from God. The blessing of God is what supplies all riches. Our focus must remain God. Our real bank account lies with him.

   Shift your focus from your works and look unto Christ for his blessings. 

CONFESSION
   I am blessed! The blessed call me blessed. I greatly increase, expand and multiply. I do not set my affections on the things beneath,  I look up to Christ the seed. He is my Power to increase. When men are limited by the natural, I press on with the supernatural. I AM BLESSED!

   

    You are probably wondering what I mean by 'no'. Well, 'no' is that word   (an adverb) used to give a negative answer to a request, an offer or question.Now that you know what I mean by 'no', you might also be wondering why someone should sit and write an article on it since it is just a commonly used word. Well, just read on and you will unlock the mystery behind the article.

    Today, I came back from school and was making a meal; two cups of rice precisely. Normally, I would have prepared just one or one and half to take me for two meals but since I was expecting a visitor, I decided to make it two. I don't have a kitchen in my room and don't have a fan yet, I prefer to cook in front of my room. Like about 2minutes after I put the rice in the pot on the gas cooker, a neighbour came and stated that he also rushed down from school hungry and he was going to eat part of what I was cooking and I could not give him a negative answer but deep down I kept on thinking of how I was going to make four meals out of barely two cups of rice.
    That aside, I had just two pieces of fish in my stew and the second question came, "how am I going to  feed three people with two pieces of fish?". The food was ready and I served my neighbour with one of the fish pieces and ate mine without fish keeping the remaining one for my guest. Having ate the food, I laid in my bed for some rest and the thought about how to say no when I am not capable of a request came up. 
    I must confess to you friends that I don't know how to say 'no' and I don't like the fact so I have to think about what to do and here is what I have:

1. Think(analyze) about every offer, request,  or question carefully before giving a response.  

2. Consider you capacity . This can really require you to be factual with yourself. Think about what you are capable of without external forces. What you are capable of doing in your natural self.

3. Ok now, you've done those two above and you still feel like a 'no' is not the right answer, think of adding external forces. As a christian, I will add faith. By adding faith, I am able to believe that something positive will come out of every situation.

4. Say no taking no offence and not offending.

See what Mayo Clinic has to say;

When to say no:
* Focus on what matters most
* Weigh the yes-to-stress ratio
* Take guilt out of the equation
* Sleep on it
How to say no:
* Say no
* Be brief
* Be honest
* Be respectful
* Be ready to repeat.
Read more http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-relief/art-20044494?pg=2

The Loss of a Loved One [Death : The Irony of Life]

   
The shock, the agony,  the pain, the trembling, the cry of the woman when she lost her only son. He was her joy of motherhood. She spends to the last to get him the best of whatever he wants.

   It was 6:00am, Tumi woke up, brushed his teeth, went to say "good morning" to his mum who was making breakfast in the kitchen and she gave him blessings as she always does, she continued with the fried rice she was making. 

At 6:15, with a glad heart,  he went to clean up his mother 's Element and his Camry; it was his last birthday gift from his mum; he cleans the cars as his daily routine and his mother receives praises at work for always having her car neat. Having done that, he went to take his bath and a voice rang "Tumi, your breakfast is ready..."It’s the mum' s voice so he wore his shirt and trousers, threw his tie across his neck , his jacket over his shoulder, lifted his briefcase from his locker side and off he goes to eat.
   Time runs, its 7:00 already, they chatted about the night while eating and when he was done with his, he rose up to meet his mother where she sat, knelt down and she did his tie for him. He gave her an adorable kiss on her forehead and left for work.
That was how Tumi and his mum had been living since his conception. They are best friends. Their relationship became even more closer when he lost his dad to ulcerative colitis at age 2.
   Tumi needs to be at work at or before 8:00am, it was 7:30am already.  He still has a 45min distance drive at a 70km/s speed to go. Tumi doesn't like to drive beyond 80km/s but that wont get him to work before 8:00. He thought as he drove; His boss warned yesterday about getting to work late. His colleague, Tunde was ready to take his position from him should the boss notice any error on his path.
It was 7: 45 already, he couldn't afford to loose his job, he increased his speed to 90km/s, rain began to pour, his phone beeped; its Dolapo calling; Dolapo is his fiancée . He doesn't pick calls while driving so he went on.
   Its 7:50, but with his current speed, he will be at work in 4mins.
Its 7:54, Yes, He did it! He is at work. He doesn't have an umbrella in his car, he decided to run up the stairs. A fall was heard, the ambulance arrived, took the person away.
8:00am: Mrs. Mofolake got a call "hello, its an emergency from Glory hospital, your attention is needed"
Mrs. Mofolake was at the hospital 5mins past 8. "We lost him" the doctor said and she fainted.
Tumi's mum laid on the hospital bed and wailed. Her only son, her best friend is gone.
 
Sometimes it's good to be alone
View life all on your own
Ponder where the future lies
And wonder how yet times flies

How different this is from lonely

Losing a seemingly one and only
How so clear the future ahead
Black and blank- and dead

Wipe the smile and put a grin
Fright at the sound of the drop of a pin
Try and laugh at someone's talk
And end up a laughing-stock

You feel you are to blame
'Right the wrong if I could time tame'
You are now enveloped in guilt
Shut in a prison you built

Let out your grief
But make it brief
Let out your feelings in a cry
Spill the tears till the ducts are dry

Row your boat in the wilderness of sorrow
Take solace in resurrection and Tomorrow
For a Friend you had from birth
Before the one you lost to death

[poem by Kolabomi Adeko
http://m.poemhunter.com/kolabomi-adeko/ ]

EXPERIENCE

Sitting at a corner of my bed, I flashed back to childhood days and all i could see was a young girl filled with passion to excel, love, some day meet someone special, and all. Yea... I really have love and have loved but the least I expected was for a love being to learn through a tough road of experience but you see, its been great learning.
Seems I'm going too personal right? Okay, lets chat and make it about us and not me.
Some of us have really faced life you know. Having experiences like being disappointed by a trusted person, loosing a loved one say parent or sibling, falling in love with a wrong guy, having to take college entrance exams quite a number of times, friends departing when we need them and all.
But you see, from the above experiences,  I've learnt that no one is above disappointment, nobody you love can reciprocate the same amount of love,  a failed attempt is not a stop, the absence of someone you love does not end your living and that no one is alone in the game.
I know you also must have experienced one of these kind of things which usually take some energy to recover from but I must tell you that you should not give up on your passions because of some garbages. Whatever should be let go should be and Whatever needs more attempts should be given more attempts. someone up there has a way of fixing things even when you think you are the best at screwing things up,  He comes over to fix the mess.
Therefore, cheer up and live life.
Have a nice day!

WHO AM I?

Who you really are is a very crucial matter about life.  You need to be able to define yourself since this is the only way you can bring out the best in this self. 
A double tragedy in life is; to die without knowing who you really are and to live denying who you really are.
My article today is centred on self image and self esteem which is One of the biggest issues in the life of all of us.
YOU ARE MORE THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE
Self image is how you perceive yourself. It is formed by a number of self impressions that come up over time. This self image can be positive, giving a person confidence in their thought and action or negative, giving them doubts of their abilities and ideas.
Surprisingly and oftentimes,  your outward appearance can be a facade but then  our self image can determine our approach toward life. 
If  you have a positive self image, you approach life positively.  However, it is important that your self image be not only positive but realistic.  Having an unrealistic self image can be a drawback whether the self image be positive or negative.
A negative self image can cause discouragement, failure and a negative thought can also encourage change, hard work, growth and success. Sometimes, having to positive self image can encourage complacency,  underachievement and arrogance.
Finding balance between feeling positive about oneself and having realistic goals is important.
Building self esteem is an inside job. Other people, circumstances, performance, success or failure will only allow a good self esteem to elude us.
So,  take time to develop a realistic self image and build your self esteem. These are the things that make you up.

TOUGH TIMES IN RELATIONSHIPS

A relationship either with the opposite or same sex who is a friend in this case is usually sweet to begin but often times a lot happen as the road gets thinner and these persons get closer. So many questions begin to pop up like;

“Where on earth did I meet him/ her?”

“What was I looking at when I made him/ her friend?”

“Why do he/ she simply derive joy from getting me angry?”

We all have been in one of those kinds of scene where we have to ponder on the qualifications that got us in a relationship with some people in our lives but then I got to tell you that you need to stop asking those questions and begin to see the reasons you made them your friends.

Seriously, I must say that no one has it all and most times we drain our loved ones such that we end up not finding the sap we really desired in them. At this junction only one thing stands and that is LOVE. Yea! LOVE! That is the only light that is unquenchable in any relationship. 

You see, God loved us SO he gave us His dear son. That’s much of a sacrifice you know, but then He let it go because he loves us. We need to begin to see people in our lives as our lovers such that even when all they display are some set of flaws we still have the strength to love them. Love is divine and it is what got you attracted to them. You saw something lovable in them; say beauty, attitude, charisma, career, strength, etc. and you chose to be with them. You’ve got to sacrifice your most desired things to be with these people. Forget their flaws!

Love endures all things because it is divine and so you need to begin to endure all things for these people. They are never going to be the perfect persons you want them to be if you keep expecting them to be perfect but they can grow beyond your expectations if you do not limit them with your own expectations. Stop expecting them to be perfect.

Another fascinating thing love does is to forgive. Love forgives all our inadequacies. He never sees them; he blinds himself to them such that he only sees those attractive things in us. So, you need to learn to forgive. Forgive everyone who has hurt you. Let go of the past and love these people as long as they remain in your life.

Cultivate the love nature.

THE FEAR OF GOD; THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM

Have you ever pondered on how wise you are? have you ever felt you are not wise enough? ok.
Prov 15: 33 (KJV) "The fear of God is the instruction of wisdom."

As I sat in one of my school's lecture theaters thinking of how to get over a problem, that bible verse rang in my ear and my thought moved away from the problem to the bible verse. I shrugged from the thought of it for a while cause I couldn't figure out how it was going to help me solve the problem I had but then, it rang again more clearly and I got it.

If you fear God or maybe I should be more practical; If you fear your dad and you do not like to get on his nerves, what do you do? Well for me, I will do away with everything that can get me close to his nerves not to even talk of getting on it. most times, it would require me to  think deeply to get an answer and in the course of doing that, I get answers to other problems. When I am out of that mood or right in that mood, I try to apply this idea I just got to a problem in  reality and usually, all I see in myself after this solution works out is a wise woman and seriously, that is simply the way it is with God.

Whenever you are being cautious of your ways because of God, you open your heart for deeper revelations of him and the world that gets you feeling fly like a super wise man.

I believe wisdom is not your ability to stand by a big mountain, pushing it with yiour little effort in order to move it away but your ability to get an axe and shove little parts of it away until it is finally gone. You realize that in this way, you are able to move the mountain and at the same time maximise the little stones you turned it to for something more useful.

Fearing God takes you to a realm of deep thinking that makes everyone see you as a wise person whereas you are just a little deep thinker.