Some months ago, I made a declaration of relationship with a friend and oh yea! There was visible growth in the relationship. We both knew our place in each other's heart and taking our seat in this place was so easy. In contrast to this, I recently met a good friend of mine who although without a defined relationship with, I missed while he was away.
Now that he's back, our crazy cycle is on it's spin again; over excitement for few days, a feeling of indifference catalyzed by ignorance of one's true stand in a relationship for the next couple of days, some weeks withdrawal from each other and eventually reconciliation.
Comparing these two relationships and now being aware of how much definition and declaration of position goes in a relationship, I see the necessity for this to be done in every relationship. It helps control the crazy cycle; it helps both parties know that irrespective of what's going on in the relationship, they can fight for their position and make things work.
The moment Jesus was baptized, there was a declaration of sonship, God said, "this is my beloved son, in whom I am well pleased". Likewise, as Christians, we were declared children of God at the point of salvation.
"Romans 8:14 For all who are led by God’s Spirit are God’s children. Vs. 16 The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children."
Therefore, it's very important that you define your relationship. Eighty percent of broken relationships happened basically because there was no initial clear definition. You see someone as your best friend but she sees you as just a friend who she understands and thus is able to help when needy times arise. Don't put someone as the overall of your life when they just want company.
It might sound awkward to do but trust me, you don't want to not do it cause you don't want to be zoned unaware!
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