EXPERIENCE

Sitting at a corner of my bed, I flashed back to childhood days and all i could see was a young girl filled with passion to excel, love, some day meet someone special, and all. Yea... I really have love and have loved but the least I expected was for a love being to learn through a tough road of experience but you see, its been great learning.
Seems I'm going too personal right? Okay, lets chat and make it about us and not me.
Some of us have really faced life you know. Having experiences like being disappointed by a trusted person, loosing a loved one say parent or sibling, falling in love with a wrong guy, having to take college entrance exams quite a number of times, friends departing when we need them and all.
But you see, from the above experiences,  I've learnt that no one is above disappointment, nobody you love can reciprocate the same amount of love,  a failed attempt is not a stop, the absence of someone you love does not end your living and that no one is alone in the game.
I know you also must have experienced one of these kind of things which usually take some energy to recover from but I must tell you that you should not give up on your passions because of some garbages. Whatever should be let go should be and Whatever needs more attempts should be given more attempts. someone up there has a way of fixing things even when you think you are the best at screwing things up,  He comes over to fix the mess.
Therefore, cheer up and live life.
Have a nice day!

WHO AM I?

Who you really are is a very crucial matter about life.  You need to be able to define yourself since this is the only way you can bring out the best in this self. 
A double tragedy in life is; to die without knowing who you really are and to live denying who you really are.
My article today is centred on self image and self esteem which is One of the biggest issues in the life of all of us.
YOU ARE MORE THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE
Self image is how you perceive yourself. It is formed by a number of self impressions that come up over time. This self image can be positive, giving a person confidence in their thought and action or negative, giving them doubts of their abilities and ideas.
Surprisingly and oftentimes,  your outward appearance can be a facade but then  our self image can determine our approach toward life. 
If  you have a positive self image, you approach life positively.  However, it is important that your self image be not only positive but realistic.  Having an unrealistic self image can be a drawback whether the self image be positive or negative.
A negative self image can cause discouragement, failure and a negative thought can also encourage change, hard work, growth and success. Sometimes, having to positive self image can encourage complacency,  underachievement and arrogance.
Finding balance between feeling positive about oneself and having realistic goals is important.
Building self esteem is an inside job. Other people, circumstances, performance, success or failure will only allow a good self esteem to elude us.
So,  take time to develop a realistic self image and build your self esteem. These are the things that make you up.

TOUGH TIMES IN RELATIONSHIPS

A relationship either with the opposite or same sex who is a friend in this case is usually sweet to begin but often times a lot happen as the road gets thinner and these persons get closer. So many questions begin to pop up like;

“Where on earth did I meet him/ her?”

“What was I looking at when I made him/ her friend?”

“Why do he/ she simply derive joy from getting me angry?”

We all have been in one of those kinds of scene where we have to ponder on the qualifications that got us in a relationship with some people in our lives but then I got to tell you that you need to stop asking those questions and begin to see the reasons you made them your friends.

Seriously, I must say that no one has it all and most times we drain our loved ones such that we end up not finding the sap we really desired in them. At this junction only one thing stands and that is LOVE. Yea! LOVE! That is the only light that is unquenchable in any relationship. 

You see, God loved us SO he gave us His dear son. That’s much of a sacrifice you know, but then He let it go because he loves us. We need to begin to see people in our lives as our lovers such that even when all they display are some set of flaws we still have the strength to love them. Love is divine and it is what got you attracted to them. You saw something lovable in them; say beauty, attitude, charisma, career, strength, etc. and you chose to be with them. You’ve got to sacrifice your most desired things to be with these people. Forget their flaws!

Love endures all things because it is divine and so you need to begin to endure all things for these people. They are never going to be the perfect persons you want them to be if you keep expecting them to be perfect but they can grow beyond your expectations if you do not limit them with your own expectations. Stop expecting them to be perfect.

Another fascinating thing love does is to forgive. Love forgives all our inadequacies. He never sees them; he blinds himself to them such that he only sees those attractive things in us. So, you need to learn to forgive. Forgive everyone who has hurt you. Let go of the past and love these people as long as they remain in your life.

Cultivate the love nature.

THE FEAR OF GOD; THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM

Have you ever pondered on how wise you are? have you ever felt you are not wise enough? ok.
Prov 15: 33 (KJV) "The fear of God is the instruction of wisdom."

As I sat in one of my school's lecture theaters thinking of how to get over a problem, that bible verse rang in my ear and my thought moved away from the problem to the bible verse. I shrugged from the thought of it for a while cause I couldn't figure out how it was going to help me solve the problem I had but then, it rang again more clearly and I got it.

If you fear God or maybe I should be more practical; If you fear your dad and you do not like to get on his nerves, what do you do? Well for me, I will do away with everything that can get me close to his nerves not to even talk of getting on it. most times, it would require me to  think deeply to get an answer and in the course of doing that, I get answers to other problems. When I am out of that mood or right in that mood, I try to apply this idea I just got to a problem in  reality and usually, all I see in myself after this solution works out is a wise woman and seriously, that is simply the way it is with God.

Whenever you are being cautious of your ways because of God, you open your heart for deeper revelations of him and the world that gets you feeling fly like a super wise man.

I believe wisdom is not your ability to stand by a big mountain, pushing it with yiour little effort in order to move it away but your ability to get an axe and shove little parts of it away until it is finally gone. You realize that in this way, you are able to move the mountain and at the same time maximise the little stones you turned it to for something more useful.

Fearing God takes you to a realm of deep thinking that makes everyone see you as a wise person whereas you are just a little deep thinker.

My letter to the ladies cont.

 I am very sorry for posting very late but I promise things won’t go this bad anymore, I am very very sorry. OK, let’s go to business;

The remaining four letters of BEAUTIFUL is what we want to deal with and that’s letters I, F, U and L.

Incredible, Intelligent

Fruitful

Ultimate and 

            

Love

That’s it! You are incredible, fruitful, ultimate creature and you are love, a love being, loving… just name whatever has got to do with love.

You are INCREDIBLE, INTELLIGENT or let me combine the two by saying you are INCREDIBLY INTELLIGENT!   That’s sounds awesome right? Yea, that’s what God created. He created an incredible creature, an intelligent one whose intelligence is so incredible that it can’t just be compared with that of other creatures. He made you with such magnificence that no other thing can match with.  Because of your incredibility and intelligence, he made you ruler over all things.   I feel the need to take us to the beginning a little. You see, when god was done with creation, He told Adam to name every living creature and whatever he called them is what they are. That is to show how much you’ve got. OK, let’s look at examples outside the bible. The man who was honored for nomenclature of plants is Carl Von Linnaeus, this guy made use of this same intelligence to further the work which Adam did. He classified plants into groups of different kinds. You can imagine someone grouping almost all this plants into groups. That was quite a big task but he did it and you are expected to operate like that.

You are FRUITFUL! You are expected to yield fruits in all areas of your life not leaving any stone unturned. Stagnancy is not what you were made for, you should yield fruits because you are living1! You don’t have to be pregnant with a baby boy or girl before you yield fruits, you should yield fruits in your career, your attitude should yield fruits.

You are the ULTIMATE CREATURE! The maker took his time to make you, He wasn’t in a rush. He created you last because He knows how special you are. You are precious in His sight. He made you just like Himself, gave you what he’s got and made you chief over all He made before you. He ensured that everything was settled before creating you because He knows you are going to take over duties from Him.

And lastly, you are LOVE! You are LOVE! You are LOVE! God is LOVE! Everything about you should be love. Think love, act love, eat love, drink love and be love! Understand what love is, it is not about you giving out what you’ve got but about inhabiting the love nature in you. Begin to see things in the love light, love yourself enough to acknowledge all that you’ve read so far, love others and ultimately, LOVE GOD!

Merry Christmas and happy New Year in advance!